Wading into the waters of dating and romantic relationships can be scary. What should you look for in a Christian relationship? If you’re in one already, how is it going and how should you proceed? If you’re not sure or you feel like things aren’t going well, getting help can be paramount to knowing how to move forward.
Some of us struggle with vulnerability, or knowing what we really want, or figuring out how to be authentic and true to our beliefs as we develop our relationship with another person. We want to help provide clarity along this journey, as well as wisdom from God’s Word.
Matt’s Story, Part 3: Self-Discovery
Matt was a little taken aback by his brother’s suggestion. He assumed that relationship counseling was for people who have bad relationships. But he thought, “Why not?”
After a couple sessions, Matt saw the value in his brother’s suggestion. He realized that his lack of connection with others wasn’t about his lack of time, but his defensiveness. He suffered wounds as a child growing up in an uncaring and abusive home. This led him to have trust issues and a fear of rejection. He didn’t want to invest deeply in relationships because he thought he would ultimately get hurt.
Matt decided to make an effort to develop relationships at his church. He was surprised and pleased to find that others reciprocated, and he even began dating a young woman there. His future began to look much brighter now that he had like-minded friends to share the journey with.
God created us for relationship. We aren’t meant to live our lives in isolation. If you’re feeling alone and unsure of how to create the connections you need, we are here to help. At Newport Beach Christian Counseling, we’ll offer a compassionate ear and practical advice for building healthy relationships at work, with friends and family, and with a significant other.